Our identity is something we spend most of our lives trying to discover and define. Our gender identity, gender expression and sexual orientation form a key part of our self-image. While greater acceptance of diversity has become a cultural norm, we live in a society where our stories and communication are still grounded in heterosexual and traditional gender expression such as “boyfriend, girlfriend, he and she”. This language can create feelings of exclusion and isolation.

For some people, coming to terms with being different to the majority of their peers is in itself a journey filled with difficulties and challenges. When someone has come to a place of acceptance over their diversity, being surrounded by peers who can’t empathise or relate to the challenges they are facing can feel like a very lonely place. Making people aware that you are different from them can feel like a very stressful experience. You may not know how they are going to react in advance. It might be the case that your peers may have even said things in the past which indicate they will struggle to accept your identity.

As the reaction of those close to you can’t be fully known in advance of coming out, there will likely be some level of stress or fear of rejection involved. If your friends and family aren’t supportive, this can lead to confusion, doubt, depression, anxiety and low self-worth. Many individuals have also had to deal with conflict or abuse, both verbally and physically. Talking with a professional counsellor can help with all the issues discussed, giving you a healthy space to talk about the challenges, stresses and conflict encountered in regards to identity.